Thursday, 1 May 2014

A Beginning 23-01-14

A Beginning (23-01-14)
I suppose I had better get it out in the open and admit this is not the first silly thing I have done. I have been doing silly things for most of my life and am on the point of doing it again. Frequent doses do not dull the fear; rather it is born anew each time with each fresh situation. As a young man I would quit a job, maybe pack my panniers and peddle off on my own. This time I have a boat to sail off in but also a wife, two daughter and a son due to be born in twenty days; inshallah. Plus some baggage, a house, in-laws; the sort of things that stick to middle aged men like burrs to a mohair jumper.

So this family sailing blog starts with me offshore and quitting my job. I am currently sitting at 6’N 60km off the beach in Nigerian water. It takes organization and perseverance to undertake silly things, even more so when wearing the mohair sweater of middle age. If it didn’t more people would do it. The planning has been planned. Now we just have to execute the plan, trouble is as military friends are keen to remind us “few plans survive contact with the enemy”.

Yesterday, five days ahead of the plan, my very pregnant wife flew from Lagos Nigeria to Edinburgh Scotland, pausing long enough in Heathrow airport for my eldest daughter to lose her first tooth. I was sitting in a hotel in Port Harcourt Nigeria and got the call last night to say the Tooth Fairy would be visiting. There seemed some level of karmic justice that her first tooth should be lost in an airport. We, as a family, have squandered too much of our lives in them.  However, not for much longer if we follow the plan.

I read an autobiography years ago by a famous Alpine climber; the author admitted that his main motivation to attempting the North Face of the Eiger was shame. Years previously he had dropped into conversation while unsuccessfully trying to chat up a girl on a Mediterranean beach that he would soon attempt the route. The author found it uncomfortable to live with the bull-shit of his own unsuccessful chat up line, years later he finally attempted the route. Shame in my experience is a prime motivator for men, more so if this involves a woman in some way. In a well rehearsed conversation (monolog) with my wife after a good dinner and a poor wine, I was oozing about us buying a boat and heading off cruising. I remember Rebecca turning to me and saying “are we really going to do this”. Shame as explained is a powerful force in men. What could be more motivating than shame in front of your own dear wife? Within two months we had finalized the plan and were having a boat surveyed. The time for bull-shit is over the time for quitting the job just around the corner, we have a plan with a time line and a calendar marked up. We just need to work the plan, and overcome each obstacle as we gallop towards them.

Well that is something on history, seeing as this is a blog about family cruising maybe I should mention the boat. The boat was built by Southern Ocean Shipyard in 1979, she is an Ocean 60. That is LOA 60ft of GRP schooner. Yes a schooner. Rebecca is from Nova Scotia and so I felt I had little choice but to buy her a schooner. The plan is to complete the refit and move aboard this summer. Sail from the Isle of Wight where she is now, down to the West Country, then across to France and towards the Mediterranean. Ok, it’s a pretty simple plan, not great statements of a circumnavigation or daring do. The prime aim from my side is to live afloat and spend time with the kids while they want to spend time with me. Lucy is six so in a few short years she will be off doing her own thing. I don’t want to spend the time between now and then sitting in airports or talking to my kids on skype. Neither do I want to look back on decades of marriage to realize half the time was spent in different countries, or working separate jobs and barley meeting at the weekends. We aim to live on and cruise the boat for as long as we as a family are having fun and stop when there is something else we would rather do. That may be six months, a year, two years or more. I personally have no criteria of success apart from all of us looking back and believing that it was time well spent. After all few on their death bed regret not having spent more time in the office!

The Plan
·         Due date for birth of son 20th February, Edinburgh (in UK for the birth)
·         Quit the job, 19th March, serve the three months notice in Nigeria
·         April all back to Lagos Nigeria to finish up my job Rebecca’s job and kids school year
·         5th of June Rebecca stops teaching in Lagos and the kids finish school
·         Second week of June, move out of Nigeria and clear house in Edinburgh ready to be rented
·         Finish re-fit of boat June - July
·         August head off sailing

·         All of above subject to change




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